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Monday, March 12, 2012

A Letter To My Daughter


I read a couple really great letters from mama's to their babies for International Women's Day, I couldn't resist, even if a little late....


Source: pinterest


Little Bird,

I am not much of a celebratory person for holidays that aren't wrought with tradition, so every year this day comes and goes without so much as a nod from me.  But then, you've come along and are starting to unfurl, and now womanhood means so much more.

Since birth, you are the most intact soul that I've ever encountered.  Birthed full of your spirit, daring us mere mortals to question your worth.  You came in screaming. Craving me in ways that shook me, that I am still learning to lean into.

Oh, how you speak your mind.  But with all your bravado, the timbers of your soul are gentle and kind.  Compassion seeps from you, pouring onto people or animals that may need a champion, or at the very least a dear, dear friend.  You care deeply. Express freely. Allow life to move through you.

And this is how you grow me, dear one.  Before you, I never so fully felt the under current of this world.  The pulsing beat, that warm flow moving us all in the same direction through the years.

Your generation of women were birthed into mama's arms that had whispered since your creation that you matter.  That you should push, strive, and dream for everything because you are capable of it all.

I'm afraid in our gusto for you to know yourself better than we did; we have spoken the notion that we are each on our own.  A pillar of strength holding up this world on our backs.  But darling, your mama's generation, in its focus on independence, sat in lonely isolation, failing to see the other woman, at every post... helping with the burden.

You have taught me that like Sampson, blind, we will bring this world down on top of us. Crushing our very selves, if we pull, solitaire, with all of our strength.

You are teaching me that interdependence is far more beautiful than being fierce, yet alone.  You are teaching me to bend low.  To scoop others into my heart and when the time comes, rest my weary head on the shoulders that surround me.

For this world is forever wide, but we women - when we stretch our arms, reaching, chests thrown back and hearts exposed- can circle it.  Care for it with the innate wisdom that allows us to grow life in our darkness.  With a love that is womb deep.

Never underestimate your own strength, your own voice, little one.  You who look tender as a bird, and like your namesake, you leap out of that tree, eyes focused forward, tucking your feet up as you trust your wings to soar.

But too, never underestimate the power of brokenness and listening hard to lives that are not your own.  For this interconnectedness will keep you steady. Humbled. Bathed in grace.

For even the birds know it is far better to migrate through life together,
                                                                                           than to fly it alone.



'til the moon turns to dust,
Mama






Shared with sweet JenPainting Prose




50 comments:

  1. This is beautiful! A tear in my eye beautiful. If I could highlight - I'd highlight it all. Blessings friend.

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  2. Oh Tara...your heart is beautiful here...so much awareness even when so young...I have to let go of my if only...keep growing here with your daughter...the two with many others migrating together...
    Blessings as you fly...

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  3. I love this. Thank you. My daughter-loving heart is exploding all over the place.

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  4. sighing so much through the reading of these words. Love this. Why do we try to be lone rangers? Thank God he teaches us, even through babies, to learn to lean, to need, to share.

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  5. *sigh*. From one mamma heart to another: keep saying the love. Oh, yes. It plants the heartiest of seeds. This is beautiful.

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  6. Reading your words is like appreciating good art. You have to keep going back to get the full meaning!
    Lovely!

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  7. your words read like beautiful poetry, Tara... thank you :)

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  8. What an amazing, beautiful letter to your daughter. She will cherish it. Thank you for giving us a peek into her lovely soul.

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  9. Beautiful advice! I want this for my daughters, too. We spend so much time focusing on being capable and strong, but I want my girls to know there's beauty in interdependence and power in connection. You have such a great perspective!

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  10. Absolutely beautiful! I really appreciate the thought that we are not meant to be alone. It is a lesson so many of us need to heed.

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  11. Don't you love what they pull out of our hearts?

    Oh, our daughters were meant to mold us too!

    This is really beautiful, I'm so glad you linked up with Write It, Girl!

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  12. What a beautiful piece of prose that your daughter will always have. Words to live by written by a wise mother who loves deep. And I love your bird analogy at the end, because I am a bird lover and because what you say is so true. Gorgeous writing Tara.

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  13. "For even the birds know it is far better to migrate through life together,
    then to fly it alone." This last line is beautiful and true. So, so true. What a beautiful letter and what a beautiful mother.

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  14. I tried to respond to this last night from my phone as I was laying back about to go to bed but it wouldn't work with me for some reason. I was wanting to say how amazing. AMAZING this letter is. The last paragraph was so true and beautiful and well, it all read as poetry. I can only imagine how proud your daughter will be to have this one day and that if I received something like this I'd have had it framed and on my wall by now!!!!!

    I am definitely a new follower.

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  15. Tara, such a treasured letter. It's all so poetic, and I especially love this phrase: "the timbers of your soul are gentle and kind." Timbers of your soul! Wonderful!

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  16. Lovely, evocative, rich with imagery. Sigh. What a lovely way to sip coffee and watch the sunrise. Thank you!

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  17. Aww this is a very beautiful letter to your daughter, Tara. Your words are full of wisdom and full of love for your daughter. Thank you so much for touching my heart, today. :-)

    Take care and God bless! :-)

    Irene

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  18. Oh how I understand. Beautiful.

    ~The G is Silent

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  19. How our children bless us and bring out the best in us! Love your letter. I hope that you print it on fine paper and set aside as a treasure to bequeath to your daughter when she is older.

    A life/career coach I know writes letters to his children every year on their birthdays, and they form this wonderful chain of lives lived, memories shared, broken hopes and restored souls. Only wish I had thought of that when my kids were little!

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  20. "I never so fully felt the under current of this world" Oh, yes. We are dead to so much before these little ones show us how to truly live and feel in this world.

    This is such a gorgeous love letter. You might think about submitting it over at the Mother Letters....
    (motherletters.com).

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  21. This is so beautiful. Words, in the form of a letter to our children, are the most beautiful words of all. And isn't that what our heavenly Father did for us? He wrote us letters, through His Words.

    Beautiful post.

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  22. That was absolutely beautiful, I'm not able to hold back tears. I am going to hold me daughter a little tighter tonight. Thank you.

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  23. Every line of this was delicious but this one in particular... Your generation of women were birthed into mama's arms that had whispered since your creation that you matter. That you should push, strive, and dream for everything because you are capable of it all..... 8-O Best.

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  24. Wow, that was powerfully moving and beautiful. It sent so many emotions coursing through me that I'm not even sure what to say. Just, wow.

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  25. It seems that email link button to your posts and the button to my happy tears are one in the same, Tara! Oh I pray your daughter cherishes this always. It is brilliant and altogether beautiful -- and your daughter deserves nothing less from you. so proud to call you friend.

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  26. "You are teaching me that interdependence is far more beautiful than being fierce, yet alone." Beautiful, thanks for sharing this and for linking up!

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  27. Aww, how sweet. Hope she appreciates this someday!

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  28. Truly you amaze.
    "And this is how you grow me, dear one. Before you, I never so fully felt the under current of this world."
    Holy, holy, holy is this making of mamas, this making of women.
    I hold you close. <3

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  29. what? a letter to your daughter and you moved mountains in me. and, is her name really Bird? gaaaah!!!! i loooooooooove it.

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    1. well, her name is Ava, which we named her because in Latin it means "little bird", or the old English which is "breath of life". Some souls come already named...she was one :)

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  30. What a beautiful, powerful letter to your daughter. What a treasure you've given to her.

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  31. This was a beautiful message about the downfalls of independence and the beauty and strength found in interdependence. I hope your daughter plants this in her heart. She will be better for it.
    And this line touched my heart: "And this is how you grow me, dear one. Before you, I never so fully felt the under current of this world. The pulsing beat, that warm flow moving us all in the same direction through the years."
    Ellen

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  32. Beautiful, and so resonating!

    How hard I've tried my whole life to never depend on anyone, and how hard it has been! Your daughter is a lucky little girl.

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  33. Isn't it amazing? We think that we are our children's teachers ... but they teach us SO much too!

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  34. Love your last line. So many beautiful sentiments in this letter. Beautifully written and beautifully felt.

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  35. A beautiful letter, and she will treasure it. Please promise you will print it out, or better yet, handwrite it for her to keep. Lovely, lovely!

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  36. You've inspired me to write letters to my kiddo. Really beautifully done.

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  37. There just are no words left. You used the best ones here.

    Kat

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  38. Okay...I'm starting to get a little freaked out!! I wrote a letter to my son on my blog today, but this is the third post similar that I've read this morning! Was it National Write A Letter to Your Kid Day??? God is moving in and through us. Thank you for this.

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  39. Goosebumps, Tara! This was just amazing, amazing, amazing. Thank you.

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  40. Beautiful - you explain it perfectly - even though I have sons - the way we have encouraged them to find their gifts, to reach as high as they dare - to believe their dreams are possible and we are cheering them on - but you nailed it - what they are missing - even sons - the inner-connectedness of one brother or sister helping the other.

    So many young daughters need to encouraging mothers like yours!

    Your letter is art, heart and parenting all mixed together into something timeless and, oh, so beautiful!

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  41. In your tender expression to your little bird, you've written a love letter to an entire generation of women. Words are something potent in your hands. I'm awed and amazed every time.

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