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Monday, February 13, 2012

Because Love Lives Slowly

I am contributing the fact that I am writing about love for two weeks straight to the sheer amounts of pom-poms, pipecleaners, and foam hearts I applied to Owen's valentines box yesterday.  It's got even this non-valentine'er in the spirit...or, it could be that The Run aMuck love letter series (this week's on patience) inspires thought...



Oh, the subject of patience...not always our strong suit is it?  I am not often prone to patience, with my mind running down "what if" roads 30 years from now.  Always examining the present for what it will mean in the future.  You'd think I'd let that go by now, because for all my crystal-balling, we still have to walk through the day, each one.

And you, so hard-wired for efficiency.  You who can look at a car driving down our lazy street and point out a tire not properly rotated, or a clock gear making it move a second too slowly.  This desire to make things run as they should, well, leaves me I'm sure, lacking in your mind's eye some days.

We both have high standards for the present moment, wanting to get things right the first time around.  So, we can sometimes get caught in the frustration of seeing each other more clearly than the person living it... a real-life bewilderment at the girl in the horror movie - choosing to run upstairs, where there's no hope of escape, with us pleading for her to open her eyes to the danger, to turn around and face it head on.

Yet when we look at what love is, patience is the first distinguishable mark that makes it love, and a subset of all the other of love's characteristics.

"Love is patient, love is kind.  It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.  Love never fails."

It is patience that allows us to keep hoping, to keep protecting and to trust.  Patience that tells us that in the end we together will be the people we dreamed we would become.  And that last piece?  "and love perseveres"?  This, this is the fruit, the child of patience, that it endures all the elements along the way, keeping the seed of our future selves, and carries it to a time when we can be firmly planted and watched bloom.

For I see in you now the man you will become.  The one who will allow life and relationships to come in slowly and change you and with you as the seasons turn.  I know these things because they are here now inside you, just starting to unfold.  So I will wait here beside you, patient and still. Watching us grow. 

Because love lives slowly, through the always.

{sharing with the Just Write, Jen , Tracy and Jennifer's communities}

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25 comments:

  1. "examining the present for what it will mean in the future"....oh, how that habit plagues me, too. Tara, I'm touched and challenged by your writing so often...thank you for your honesty and vulnerability!!

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  2. Thanks for stopping by and leaving the sweet comment. I really enjoyed reading this post. Love the line: "Patience that tells us that in the end we together will be the people we dreamed we would become." :)

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  3. love every bit of this, tara. sweet words, with a beautiful, realistic picture of true love. don't you just love this exercise of writing it out?
    blessings,
    steph

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  4. I love the idea that through our patience we will become the people we dreamed we would become. As we keep moving in our relationships the dream takes shape. Good Stuff,
    Keep it up,
    Q

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  5. Oh, that first paragraph, we are sooo soul sisters. I can't rest in the present because I need to make sure the future is taken care of. This writing about our husbands has been a rich excercise for me. Something I really haven't done until I had prompts. Feel like I am getting you to know you and your husband as I read yours!

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  6. This is just beautiful and so true - seeing them for the man they will become. Thanks for sharing. Blessings.

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  7. Oh this makes me happy that love lives slowly. Not rushing around like we're so oft to do.

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  8. "It is patience that allows us to keep hoping, to keep protecting and to trust. "

    So so good. Thank you for this.

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  9. love how you see those things "just starting to unfold." how much easier, in marriage, to rant about the not-yet.

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  10. I love everything about this post. This is beautiful and inspiring!

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  11. Recently, I have been focusing my efforts on patience in my family life. Thank you for your post. :)

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  12. "and a subset of all the other of love's characteristics"...love this. will think on it. and love the way you blessed your husband through this post: 'i see in you the things you will become because they are already there' (my paraphrase). well said. thanks for stopping by today!

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  13. "And that last piece? "and love perseveres"? This, this is the fruit, the child of patience, that it endures all the elements along the way, keeping the seed of our future selves, and carries it to a time when we can be firmly planted and watched bloom."

    How lovely. To plant patience and hope and believe it becomes perseverance.

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  14. I love that last phrase. Full of acceptance, belief and love. It is so beautiful and the secret, yes, to this contentment right here and now.

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  15. I really like this. I have a husband who is hard-wired for efficiency too. And what you said about eye-balling a car down the road and notice a need for tire-rotation cracked me up. I so get that!

    And yet, for all of our differences, it is in our patience for each other in the midst of these differences that beings us together.

    Tara, this is a really great post. I love it.

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  16. I loved "This, this is the fruit, the child of patience, that it endures all the elements along the way, keeping the seed of our future selves, and carries it to a time when we can be firmly planted and watched bloom." So beautiful, challenging and inspirational. I need to look at my husband this way, Tara. Thanks for the gentle nudge!

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  17. Stopping by via Painting Prose. I'm so glad I did.
    love lives slowly through the always.
    beautiful.
    thank you for sharing your heart with us!
    All for Him,
    Nikki

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  18. Ahhhh ...

    Just. Lovely.

    "Through the always." What a great way to encapsulate perseverance.

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  19. It is patience that allows us to keep hoping, to keep protecting and to trust. Patience that tells us that in the end we together will be the people we dreamed we would become. And that last piece? "and love perseveres"? This, this is the fruit, the child of patience, that it endures all the elements along the way, keeping the seed of our future selves, and carries it to a time when we can be firmly planted and watched bloom.

    Wise and so true. Hopefully, you'll have lots of years together to cultivate that garden. :)

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  20. Hi Tara - one of the many good things about valentine's day as a Christian is it brings to mind afresh, God's love. Great post and I am now your newest follower! :) Thanks for linking up again. I love seeing you there.
    God bless
    Tracy

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  21. patient and still watching us grow...oh yes...so important...my husband was/is so patient to allow me the space to grow...He cultivated my garden with love...but never tried to rush the process...His patience made room for my slow growing fruit...31 yrs together...oh how sweet it is...
    this is lovely...
    blessings as you all grow together in patient love...

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  22. "love lives slowly." Oh, and I am such a fast-paced kind of girl. This is such a good reminder that there is so much joy in the slow.

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  23. "Love lives slowly" so it can be intentional and patient. Thanks for the reminder!

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  24. Holy-strait-up-unconscious-plagiarism-batman!
    Sorry Tara! Must have read you earlier this week? That first line needs to be changed!!!

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    1. no way! i take zero {ziltch} offense to someone else feeling the same way i do! In fact, it makes me feel a little more normal, and heck, I need all the help there i can :)

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